I find perspective to be a profound concept, and potentially a life changing one! A large part of our quality of life or feelings about the world are based on perspective and the stories we tell ourselves or meaning we make our of life experiences.
For example, is your cup half empty or half full?
What if we shifted perspective and wove a new story about certain life experiences, particularly painful life experiences?
This is not to take away from the facts but to narrate a story in an adaptive way that allows us to live to our fullest potential.
Narrative therapy guides clients in weaving together a story that resonates while simultaneously carving out a new path for increased wellness.
✧ "Things we should learn from the stars: ✧
1) you will burn. but this pyre of yours will light an entire galaxy.
2) collapse unto yourself. it doesn't matter. yesterday is light years away and it's cold can't touch you now. tomorrow is when you shine.
3) the explosion will shatter your bones and no one will hear a sound. it is alright, stars die quietly, too. but they get up every single time.
4) like stars, burn brighter after you rise.
5) (always rise)
6) the universe is a dark and vast place but there's always light. find it. if you can't find it, be that light.
7) make sure that the whole universe knows just how beautiful you are when you decide to survive."
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『 REFLECTION 』
The holidays are a good time for reflection and to take stock of where you've been and where you're headed. Today, as I drank my morning coffee ☕️, I reflected on my own personal goals and gave thanks for every little thing thats helped me on my way!
"Honest self-reflection opens your mind to reprogramming, change, success and freedom"
Happy Thanksgiving everyone!
↞ The Case for Rest ↠
Sometimes it's so hard to give ourselves permission to rest and rejuvenate. We often have narratives about missing out on things, needing to "keep up", and judgement from self and others for not being "on" all the time. Yet the truth is we can't pour from an empty cup.
This weekend was a reminder for me that sometimes I need to slow down. It's a powerful act of self love to give yourself time and space.
However, slowing down for some may feel like a luxury they can't afford. The nuances and survival of every day life can override one's sense of having any time or space. If you feel you're in this boat, a good way to provide some relief is to visualize a happy place.
A happy place in EMDR therapy taps into one of your most precious memories or imaginings. What sights, scents/smells, and/or physical sensations are coming to mind? This is a technique you can put in your knapsack of coping tools and take with you anywhere!
For me, my happy place is feeling free in modern dance class at the age of 8, twirling around the room as my grandmother watches with an infectious smile and deep resounding love. I can hear the rhythmic voice of my dance teacher providing direction as I dream of the chocolate milkshake my grandmother will undoubtedly share with me at our favorite diner after dance class.
≅ Podcasts ≅
One of my favorite things to do is listen to podcasts on mental health and wellness. A new podcast I stumbled across via Instagram is "A Bipolar a Schizophrenic and a Podcast" by @schizophrenic.nyc.
This podcast is fabulous- so honest, raw and inspiring. It's so important for people to be exposed to what is considered to be "severe mental illness" to let it be normalized, seen, felt and heard. 🖤
SF Therapist, originally an East Coast native. I have been in the mental health field for 12 years. Check out my stories on Instagram at @femme.trauma.therapist !